Luke Creitz: Alot of Hotels won't take things to the room for you beforehand. However, if you have a wedding planner they will most often do this for you as a courteousy. I would not ask anyone else to decorate or make the room romantic. The whole point is to make the night memorable. If someone else decorates, that isn't very romantic or creative. Go to the room prior to the ceremony, and do a little decorating yourself. Try putting some rose petals on the bed. Place candles around the room, and in the bathroom and light them when you get back to the room. Draw your new wife a bath, and let her relax after a long day while you get things ready. Have a few fruits on hand like maybe strawberries, raspberries etc to dip in chocolate. Kinda like a little foreplay. The chocolate can be used for other things as well. Have some massage oils set out to massage those tired muscles. Just take it slow, be gentle with each other. Don't set your expectations to high, after a long day! you both might be a little tired. Most of all just have fun, and be happy. You have the rest of your life to perfect sex with your new wife!
Brian Freedland: Wedding according to many happens once in a lifetime for some couple. It they can afford to spend and make it a memorable one for them, their families and friends, then it's fine and important. For those who have no much budget, they can do it simple and solemn with just some immediate family and friends around to witness. There are even some who use simple dresses, have wedding ceremony done in a civil court with the judge to administer, with no wedding entourage, just few close friends to witness and proceed to a not so well known restaurant for a little lunch or dinner. The important thing is the way you live after the wedding....Show more
Tracy Huesso: YES IT IS POSSIBLE!! my fiance gave me a budget of 10 thousand dollars to work with, and I am keeping it just under that so far (I'm getting married o! n 07-07-07) I know it seems like a lot to some people but in r! eality, it really isn't. There is sooooo much that goes into the wedding. After paying a caterer, limo, cake, hall, church, bridal presents, dress, flowers, accessories, rings you could end up at least a few thousand right there. then there are the little things. There are ways to get around it though. my limo is 450, my hall 400 (it's a VFW and my fiance is a veteran), my pianist is 150, my church is free, I bought a dress for 500 and got the tiara free, and my fiance's suit was free since at after hours tuxedo gives the grooms tux free if you have at least 4 members getting tuxedoe). I am having cheesecake for the wedding cake and it's only costing me 300 (and we are inviting at least 200). there are a lot of ways to cut corners, you just have to do some hard work. What has helped me stay in budget is using a Microsoft works spreadsheet. I just put in the items and prices and it adds it up for me. I also recommend a book called "How to Have a Big Wedding on a Small Budget! " by Diane Warner. It has helped me out a lot. and it's only 14.99, you can find it at a Barnes and Noble. believe me, 15 dollars is well worth the price in the ideas it gives you to spend less. I hope this helps you. feel free to contact me if you need more help. By the way, Congratulations!!...Show more
Brock Hladik: Of course... My parents got married in their large backyard and it was gorgeous- cost about $1000.00. THE FOLLOWING FOR 100 GUESTS:My husband and I got married recently. Our budget was $10,000. We hit it perfectly! 1. Go on Craigslist for many things... people are giving away their wedding things.2. We made our own favors (seeds for people to plant we bought, but we packaged them with computer cut outs)3. I had a friend decorate4. Flowers we got from a grocery store and laid them all out to make our own bouquets.5. I did my own hair and make up ( I don't trust others :)6. My aunt made the cake7. We DID splurge for the catering ... 8. My brides maids bou! ght their own dresses as their gift to me.9. We had a children's table ! which we excluded from the catering. We brought subway sandwiches for them.10. We had it on a Sunday ... cheaper!11. We also went all out for the photographer! Memories are worth it.12. I didn't get an expensive dress, shoes, etc. I preferred a nice honeymoon!13. I made my own invitations! It was more personal for me to make them. And my own programs!14. We went to Hawaii for the honeymoon, and will go somewhere bigger when we are more settled! Something to look forward to :)15. Remember- most couples getting married are younger and are not rollin' in the money. Save the money for your life together- that one day is a wonderful celebration, but don't let it start you off broke! $10,000 is VERY easy to do, just be smart and don't go overboard! Congrats!!!! This is a fun time... best wishes :)...Show more
Ty Kirton: I feel like my wedding will be the start of a vacation. I don't want any guests, just me and my fiance. (I have a feeling that won't happen though. I believ! e his parents are gonna want to be there when they find out.)It seems like a perfect moment to just breathe and share i the joy of looking into that other persons eyes knowing that you had the right one all along. Then when the ceremony is over you turn around and walk to your hotel/lodge/cabin and soak in a hot tub and talk about the future.A wedding should be fun for both partners, not about being an attention whore.Kinda odd since i never wanted to get married until i met my fiance....Show more
Clement Viscarro: I know you're lying just by the sheer fact that you can NOT marry in Westminster Abbey (not alley) unless you are 1) a resident of that parish, 2) worked in that specific church, 3) Of Royal bloodline.
Lourie Mcroberts: It is more symbolic than neseccary, it tells everyone that you love that person and will do anything for them and want to spend the rest of your loves with that person. Also it tells everyone that ur gonna be busy planning your wedding! and may need a little help with the choosing of the cakes
Idell ! Dufort: On my wedding night my husband went to our room earlier that day and prepaired it for that night. He also had the hotel attendent do a few things right before we arrived like run up and lite the candles and turn on the music. He had candles everywhere, rose petels laying on the bed and on the floor. Also he had 20 bundles of 12 roses each in red and white all over the room. there was soft music playing and low lights. It was a wonderful experience and i absolutly loved it. Also he had fruit and chocolate in a fondue pot waiting beside the bed so we could feed each other. Maybe this could help you out i hope it does!...Show more
Elvie Drumgoole: I'm wasting my points just to write that this is the gayest idea I've ever heard hahahahhaah I would spit in your face if you proposed to me like this, I'd also go and punch every one of those girls in the mouth ;)
Sylvie Snetting: Sounds like you're trying very hard to convince yourself of that fact. If a wedding! isn't important to you, don't have one-its that simple. Beyond that, it should be of no concern to you.I personally did have one, and I felt it to be highly meaningful spiritually for me. I also don't consider one cent of the money we spent to be wasted. We entertained those people who are important to us-that costs money. So what? We'll make more. It has nothing to do with the money for me. I don't care if anyone thinks I'm rich or poor-I care that the events I consider important in my life are treated as such. Getting married is a big huge deal to me, and that deserves to be marked accordingly. Going to the courthouse and just signing the forms is more like paying a parking ticket than taking the single most important step of your adult life. Just another errand to run....no, I wanted and got more than that. Homes and cars are all nice, but at the end of it all, what you really have are the memories you make with your family, the bond you create with your special people ! by honoring your family tradiitons and spending time together. I have a! car, have a new house--those things can be taken away in a second. What cannot be taken away is the wonderful family my husband and I both have--a family made stronger by spending time together celebrating special moments in each other's lives together....Show more
Shane Getler: Honestly, I think I would have originally been fine with just heading down to the county courthouse and having a quick civil ceremony. But now that I've gotten into the planning and excitement that goes with being engaged, I am glad that we're having a wedding. I still don't like the idea of a huge, 300-guest circus wedding with the poofy white dress and matching bridesmaid dresses and all of that over-the-top- pageantry. I am SO not interested in pretending I'm a princess just because I happen to be one of over 7 million women getting married this year. On the other hand, though, I didn't want the day to go by without a little fanfare. After all, this is the only time we're ever getting! married, and I want to celebrate it in a meaningful way. Luckily, there is a happy medium between the registry office and the Plaza Hotel, and it doesn't cost an arm and a leg.We're just doing a really simple, casual ceremony at a beautiful park we found, which will be attended by only about 50-60 guests. The whole thing should last about 10 minutes, tops. Then we're doing a reception at my very favorite Mexican restaurant in town, where we'll put the focus on fun rather than ostentatiousness. Guests can wear whatever they want, my bridesmaids' only job in the world is to stand up there with me and be my friend, and we'll be cracking open a pinata in lieu of silly favors that nobody wants.I used to think that getting married was getting married, no matter how you did it. But after I got engaged I realized that I really wanted to say those vows out loud in front of family and friends, and (dorky as it sounds) I really wanted to walk down an aisle towards my future husb! and and have that moment where he looks at me and I look at him. After! really thinking about it, I just didn't want my marriage to start out in a courthouse, the same place where so many marriages end. It is possible to have a little ceremony and a little party without going over the top and making a ridiculous show out of it, and that's what I intend to do....Show more
Alphonso Brake: It's not a show, it's just a party to celebrate your marriage. I love parties, so why not have one for one of the most memorable events in my life? There aren't many better reasons to have a party. And it doesn't have to be extravagant or really costly either. To each his own. If you don't like the idea of a wedding, then don't have one. I won't think any more or less of your marriage either way. The wedding isn't what's important, it's the marriage, but why not celebrate it?
Dwight Siniard: Absolutely. we are doing our entire wedding for around $8000. Not a small wedding either. About 80 guests in a formal reception venue. The total price includes! everything from flowers, to my dress, to Bridal Party gifts, favors, food, alcohol, DJ, Photographer, cake, decorations, and and other small mics things. The key is shopping around and getting the most value for your dollar. Since we are paying for the entire wedding ourselves price was a major issue. You can definately have a gorgeous wedding for under $10K....Show more
Gennie Shauer: U make some valid points but a wedding is something a girl dreams about from a very young age and so when the time comes that u hopefully get married for the rest of ur life u want it to b a beautiful occassion it doesn't matter what it cost
Barton Morfee: The groom usually takes a back seat to the bride with all the planning etc, but the groom wants a nice day too. The bride is the most important person on the day to everyone she will want to look her best and have a beautiful dress and venue. Wedding need not cost a fortune to be good. Sit down meals are over rated, most prefer! a good old knee's up a buffet, and fun. Formality and Snobberty is usu! ally just to show off, and nothing to do with the important bit which is two people uniting in love....Show more
Cierra Gadbaw: My wedding coming up.. and it'll be our first night.. any ideas on how to sweep her off her feet? can I ask a hotel attendant to bring stuff up to the hotel room before we get there? thanx!
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Darren Heling: I totally agree with you. I come from a european family. And we all know how big of a show european weddings are. I agree that the money wasted would be better invested in a house.I have mentioned to my girlfriend that the most important part of the wedding is the ceremony. I have also mentioned to her that if the wedding was up to me, it would just be a civil wedding at city hall with close family and friends.Unfortunately she has a big family and if we do get married, it would have to be a decent size....Show more
Providencia Serpe: you can have a lovely affair under 10 grand just have to find dresse! s that you like that are afordable an find a nice venue flowers it is totaly do able most middle class weddings are 5- 15 thousand and also depends on how many guests if you think 100-150 then that is a good chunk of change to work with
Roxane Leathers: First of all, I agree wholeheartedly. It really should be more about the love two people share than about an overblown party.My fiance and I initially planned to just elope. My aunt was heartbroken over that idea so we began planning a small wedding. We had a venue picked out in Las Vegas, then with the downturn in the economy, we decided to have it closer to home. We thought it was unfair to have loved ones travel so far and spend money for accommodations and such. We didn't have any idea of where we were going to have our wedding until we happened to mention it to some friends at a museum where we all volunteer. They offered us the site, a place for the reception, setup, chairs, tables, a huge kitchen, pro! fessional videography by museum staff, a cake made by a professional ba! ker, and a load of other stuff FOR FREE. We also have a professional photographer doing our photos for free as well. Everything else is DIY for us since there isn't anything we can find online that fits in with our theme. We are blessed with great friends and that's an awesome addition to have the love we share for them included in our wedding.We certainly can't afford to spend $$$$ on a wedding. I bought the bridesmaid equivalent of my dress since it looked better on me (I'm really short!) and also 1/3 of the price! Everything I have bought, I got at a serious discount. I bought all my thank you notes, guest book, pen for the guest book and a lot of other things for only 10 cents each! My fiance and I are making our invitations, favors, and anything else we can get away with!Weddings can be kinda romantic so the couple might as well enjoy it since romance is not something that happens on a daily basis once you're married or with someone for a really long time! Havi! ng a wedding is important to me for a few reasons. First of all, I waited a long, long time to meet the RIGHT person. Meeting my fiance filled a real void in my life and I am so grateful. More importantly, I never thought I would live to see the day I would ever get married. My health was so bad, my doctor thought I would not live another 5-10 years and I wasn't even 30 at the time. I lost 180 pounds, and all the problems associated with it, to be healthy for the first time in my entire life! Getting married is a celebration of our life together and about new beginnings. Also, our wedding serves as a commitment ceremony for the 11 year old daughter I have and the 2 1/2 year old daughter my fiance has as well....Show more
Sibyl Siwik: I think people can get married however they want, it really doesn't matter to me. Getting married by signing a paper is just as much a wedding as having a "big" wedding. As far as cost is involved, you are making an assumption that! people are blowing all their money on a wedding instead of buying thin! gs they need. While that is sometimes the case, it's most likely not. It is possible to share the day with many family and friends without going into debt, all the while having a house, car, nice honeymoon and savings for the future.I don't think weddings are supposed to prove anything. It is to share with your friends and family (whether that be one person or one hundred people)...not simply to inform them. Inviting family and friends also does not automatically equal an extravagant wedding. It has nothing to do with having "money to burn".While some people do like being the center of attention, most of the time people do genuinely care about sharing that day with their family, and their families care too.If you are feel so strongly about it then you are not required to have a big wedding if/when you get married (if you are not already married). You are also not required to go to any weddings you are invited to. Even though I do not agree you are entitled to your opinion h! owever, you may want to stop making assumptions about/commenting on people's finances as that is very rude....Show more
Misty Vagle: Um, I didn't sleep from the morning the day before the wedding until the evening the night after the wedding. I was just wired. I don't think anything could've relaxed me.
Alberto Kozub: this topic seems to be coming up a lot lately. I have always wanted a wedding. It's that simple. I never once considered getting married in a courthouse, neither has my bf. I don't want a big huge fairytale princess wedding that costs tens of thousands of dollars!! I just want a nice wedding. It doesn't mean we love eachother more than a couple who doesnt, and it doesn't mean we want to "show off". Its just important for us to have our families there. It's also all I know. Ive never known anyone to get married in a courthouse, or have a backyard wedding. I think a lot of it has to do with where you live, your community, your family, what's cons! idered the norm. Will we be cutting back due to the failing economy, o! f course! We aren't going to put ourselves in debt just to have a wedding, but it's something we are going to have. I don't see what the big deal is if you are living within your means. I don't think it's right to look down on someone for wanting a wedding, nor is it ok to think the same of someone who doesnt. Why does it matter to everyone so much what the next person does?edit-I do see your side though, I have been to weddings that were 40k+ and all about the show, not about the couple. The bride actually said that to the groom, at the reception. Now THAT is a waste of time....Show more
Donte Hamme: Why WOULDN'T you want to celebrate with your loved ones on the most important day of your life? Why wouldn't you want to introduce yourselves as a couple and have people celebrate that? How is celebrating such a momentous occasion 'unimportant' ? Cars and houses are great, but are they really worth more than the memories a couple gets from getting wishes of happiness ! from their loved ones on the day they commit themselves to one another? I don't think so.I feel like what you're saying is what poor people say to convince themselves that they're not missing out on the huge, lavish wedding they think they're supposed to/expected to have. A wedding doesn't require tons of money; a celebration can be as simple as having your loved ones join you for a bbq in the park....Show more
Lourie Mcroberts: Hell yes! there are alot of people who dont spend anywhere near that amount and have a fabulous wedding. Its not in how much you spend it's in how much people care about you and want to be part of your celebration not your showy extravaganza. Keep it simple and elegant. Check out ebay they have really good stuff for a very good price. There are budget wedding site too that tell you how to do what you want for a very reasonable price. Set your budget and then work with it. Say $5000 is the limit. Then start working with it. There will! be thigs you wont compromise on and there will be things that you will! . Be flexible and open to ideas that others share with you. There was a show on TLC that did weddings for $5000 and they were spectacular!...Show more
Krystal Cordovano: First, let us define what a wedding IS, actually. To me, a wedding is the solemnization of the vows that a couple makes to each other, and is a very important thing. As such an important occasion, the couple should endeavor to make sure it is special, meaningful, and memorable.That said, this can happen in many different ways.My fiance and I are getting married on the rim of the Grand Canyon at sunset, with only our parents present. I consider this a wedding, and I consider it important. It is also very memorable and special, and we are both very much looking forward to it. On the other hand, the thought of a traditional white wedding makes me want to boil myself. I think all the pomp and circumstance is unnecessary. I guess for different people, "Special and Memorable" mean different things. It's a! matter of figuring out what that is to the individual couple in question....Show more
Andre Winegar: Too Much, I would say keep it simple and intimate. There is no reason to have all those people there. Sometimes less is more.
Shawnna Kusky: Congrats and I think you should get people to put her favorite flower pedals around the hotel room (it will make it special) and try not to fight during the wedding or after (like when u get to the hotel room) it will really make it a bad memory.
Willie Tun: I can't speak for others, I can only speak for myself.Yes, in a way, my wedding is important. And in another way, no, it is not.It is not important because my fiance and I have lived together for two years now. We share everything, including finances. We have already talked about having children and I know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. In my mind, we are married. I do want to be legally married to him though, so there is not question of a! ctually having a wedding ceremony.As for the wedding itself, I have alw! ays pictured myself getting married in Vegas or some other "eloping" type of wedding. BUT, my fiance's brother is in the Air Force and he had to go and get married in a court house in Japan. No one was there but the two of them and their mother is very upset that she didn't get to see her oldest son get married.So, because having a wedding ceremony is important to his mother and to some of my family, it is important to me.I am happy that his mom will get to see her youngest son get married and be able to participate in the ceremony and reception as well as the planning.So, it is not important to me, per se. But since it is important to my family, it is important to me.But, I agree with you. I think that it can be a tad wasteful....Show more
Rufus Plough: It's like a mix of the big proposal on The Office and Song of Songs... I don't know what to think. But I would hate it.I would like for it to just be me and the love of my life. No one else. Not even horses.
Dalia Causby: Yes marriage is important.Its a day for people to witness your love & devotion for each toher.
Lucrecia Laurito: I think you are confused. For a marriage you don't just need to sign up. You must be pronounced husband and wife by an officiant. If you have done that you have had a wedding. A wedding does not mean big white dress, tons of money, 500 of your closest friends eating filet mignon. A wedding is still a wedding if it is just witnesses, and bride and groom at the courthouse. So is your complaint about weddings being official or about religious trappings or financial money spent? You have had a wedding even if it's just $300 to an officiant at a courthouse.A wedding is important b/c it is a commitment be! tween two people that you will stick it out, for better or worse, sickn! ess and in health. Legally it has a lot of significance. In the military, someone who is just dating has no rights. You do not get to know where your boyfriend is if he is on a mission, if something happens you do not get to make any decisions, and if he is killed you get no benefits. To the religious, the legal part does not matter as much as the covenant before God. You are vowing in front of your family and your spiritual deity that you will stay with this person forever.As for the costs involved that is up to you. You can still have a wedding on whatever you can afford be that 1,000 or 100,000. Assuming that it is your choice. Traditionally (and in the south this is still tradition), the bride's family pays for the wedding. My family had this much put aside for my wedding. If I had decided to elope and not spend my wedding fund, that was my choice but the money would then go into my parents retirement fund. It was not "my money" to do with as I pleased but a ! gift from my parents. I know it is the same in Indian and Chinese families so the argument to invest in a house never makes sense if it isn't your money to spend. If the bride and groom are paying for it themselves it should be up to them to decide how much is too much to spend.To many (especially like the aforementioned Indians and Chinese) it is a symbol of hundreds of years of tradition. The passing down from one generation to the next. As Chinese religions are based on that, the cultural significance of one generation to the next is very important.I would disagree that the money is better spent on a car. What is a car? Tomorrow it could be totaled. It decreases in value every year. As an investment, a car is no different than blowing it one night.As far as what does a wedding prove, we are back to the legal argument. Legally you are equal partners. Legally it gives you say in the other's life decisions. One of these "commitment ceremonies" that are not legall! y binding ceremonies is just to inform members of your social circle, b! ut a wedding is not. A wedding legally proves everything.Personally a wedding is important for lots of reasons. For me the religious angle isn't one. Socially there is a big difference b/t being married and dating someone. Socially there is little difference after 30 between casually dating and seriously dating if neither are planning on leading to marriage. Look at law firms. It is rare for an unmarried man to make partner. Socially to hit 40 and still be unmarried implies that something is wrong with you. You may feel that is wrong but that is society's view.As for feeling like the center of attention, I think that's a very narrow minded and selfish viewpoint for you to have. Most people consider their wedding as a way of thanking all those people who have been an important part of their life. If it was my choice, I would have had a wedding in the Caribbean with just my in-laws present. However my husband is from a very large family. He couldn't imagine not ha! ving them all present. It was a way to thank everyone for influencing him into the man he is today. It was an opportunity for me to meet many of them and for them to see my family as well. It is often a networking opportunity, but very rarely is the bride and groom doing it b/c there is no other way to get a spotlight on themselves.I would love to argue both sides and if your question were are the religious trappings important I would. But the only people I've ever known say a wedding wasn't important at all, are speaking from emotional rejection. B/c legally, financially culturally and of course our own Hierarchy of Needs says otherwise. It's important socially and often spiritually. It's not a play put on to be in the spotlight but a legal ceremony. Ask the gay community why it's important. It's a way to separate the "in-crowd" from the outsiders. It's a right either denied to people b/c they are black or gay or from different castes or granted to people of equa! l social status. Just dating is only good enough for those that always! want that easy out option that any day now I can wake up and say "I'm outta here"....Show more
Dewey Heersink: I need to know if this is a good proposal and setting. I'm going to line the street with people holding candles in the moonlight(mainly with women of my past, women who I rejected, women who are just not my type). It's going to be a long street. So while she's walking down the street, all the women and men will be holding candles and they will ask her some questions to remind her of who I am. Then when she gets to me, a choir will sing a soft melody with the releasing of doves. Then she will see all of her favorite things on a table, after that I come in riding on a white stallion to the rescue, when she gets to the end I will say, hey you remember all the things we been through, the trials and tribulations, yes you were there and read a poem about our love. After all that, I will get down on one knee and recite the passages in the bible. Then propose. So is! this too much or not enough?...Show more
Lia Argall: Dude, you will be tired, and likely both your expectations will not be met.Good luck.Best to get an Uncle or similar to advise you on all the right moves, including an early get away from the reception.
Maritza Ebanks: Don't do the thing with women of ur past cuz like u said, it's a long street! So I think she might get uncomftorble (well atleast I would) but the whole candle idea! Is rele cool
Catheryn Small: Give her a gift of a beautiful classy umbrella in her fav color- because it is raining love.If you are staying in the bridal suite they may already have some goodies prepared such as champagne and a fruit basket... how about some strawberries and whipped cream... how about an in house massage in the spa (or the 2 masseuses to come to room) immediatly following the reception to help you both relax and wind down... then a soak in the whirlpool bath... then provately both dress and have a cd of grea! t music for about 15-20 minutes of slow loving dance together... as you! plan to dance together for a lifetime... take the lead and make it an eventful memory for always.
Dale Mccoun: just so you know 85% of people that get married don't do it on there wedding night just think if you get up at 7am an are running around to do hair make up an getting ready pictures an dancing last thing on your mind is sex just in case that you are the 15% tons of KY an get some champagne bubble bath an talk to the hotel if they can draw a hot bath at 10:25 an your up there at 10:35 an have fun an don't put to much on this take your time its a wonderful thing an congrats
Lucrecia Laurito: Well instead of women from my past, we will have a lot of friends. Also, I spent $30,000.00 on the ring so, is that too much?
Donte Hamme: Don't have women from your past. If my husband would of done that, he wouldn't be my husband. I like the bible passes idea, but only if it's about love! I would do something a little less flashy. Good luck and hope! fully a congratulations is in order.
Pei Heatherly: Like first night sex wise? Well if she is a virgin make sure you get a lubricant, it will make it less painful for her, and just take all the inhibitions and awkwardness away...who says you have to have sex that night anyway...wait a day when you arent all worked up...
Jose Calaycay: I think its cute but leave out the women from your past. It will just make her feel uncomfortable I know it will for me.
Ariel Arons: Personally I love weddings! I love everything about them, the food, cake, and dancing. It's so much fun. But to answer your question...1) I think people do spend a lot or too much on a wedding that only last one night. Your right about that. I think investing in a home is smarter. But you also have to think of this as your only night to have a party exclusively for you and your significant other. Where you get presents from your guests and you get to share this close bond with everyone. I thin! k it's a once in a lifetime event. And it should only happen once in yo! ur life time.2) I also agree that wedding don't need to be extravagant. I think the more money you spend on a wedding the less you think about the seriousness of the occasion. It seems like millionaires (or people on these platinum wedding shows) don't really think that marriage is sacred and forever. They just want to have a big party, which isn't what marriage is about.3) Spending money everyday on someone does seem more romantic than a huge wedding that last one night. But does anyone seriously buy their mate a gift everyday? I see your point, but I just have to say that I love weddings, I probably always will, but I think weddings should be taken more seriously!Great question! :)...Show more
Voncile Slaubaugh: Just like you've said. I think weddings are a waste of money.Most people do it because of their cultural background or it has become a "tradition" since god knows when. It's about papers really.
Betsey Copp: Sure..... I know of one couple that had a we! dding and only spent $150. It depends on how elaborate a wedding you want, and how much money you want to spend.If you want a huge church wedding, with several singers, ushers, bridesmaids, several preachers, and the whole kit-ka-boodle, then be prepared to spend thousands of dollars.A little advice, though... don't spend too much, because a lot of marriages don't last, and end up getting a divorce.There are marriage parlors, that can marry you in one hour after applying.,, and they only charge for the preacher, some music, and the props.....all for under $500...Show more
Daren Ventrice: lmfao...I LOVE IT! Especially the part with the street lined up with old girlfriends and the ones you rejected....doubt you can get them to line the street on behalf of the proposal for the woman you chose....Hopefully, your gf will "get" your sense of humor and quirkiness and love all you have done to make your proposal to her unlike any other. Well done you!Not sure if your mone! y can get you into the Abbey...sorryCongrats and let us know how it tur! ns out.....Show more
Evelin Turlich: Practically thinking... you will both need to rest as the day is very stressful and exhausting. How about a nice foot massage and back rub. If she falls asleep, then that is fine if things go elsewhere,,, you will know what to do.Follow the next day with a professional massage in the Hotel .
Patricia Dornbos: When I was 19, I ran off with my boyfriend and eloped on a whim, even though I always wanted a wedding. After that, I would get all teary eyed whenever anyone else had a wedding or if I saw one on tv...always feeling like I missed out. We divorced less than a year later.I'm now married and we had the big dream wedding. I wouldn't change it for the world. It was worth every penny...and it was not lavish by any means.I was young the first time, but I think you still feel more married if you have a big ceremony, if that makes sense. And it might make you both try a little harder to make it work....Show more
Georg! ia Dees: i certainly a wedding is important (getting wed in 6 weeks time).and why? is because i love my fiance so much that we both want to have one special day to call OUR DAY, a day to remember and celebrate each passing year.
Miguel Koczela: I totally understand where you're coming from. However, I want a wedding that's not simply going to the registry. I really want to be able to share the happiness with my family and friends, and celebrate that I've reached this milestone with them. I realize that there doesn't necessarily HAVE to be a wedding to do this, but I think it's a fun way of doing so. I view it simply as a celebration. You could make the same argument for extravagant birthday parties, or any number of other things in both directions....Show more
Moira Woodrow: Weddings are big business today, and many people make a lot of money selling you things you don't need, or convincing you to spend more than is needed.All you NEED for a wedding is a gr! oom, a bride, a witness or two, and a minister or justice of the peace. ! The license costs a few bucks, and the minister or justice often has a small charge or deserves a small honorarium.After this, everything else is frosting and what you want and choose. Choosing an open bar and lobster buffet? Big bucks. Choose a mid-afternoon reception and finger-foods and you save a ton. Reserving a big fancy church or a small charming church? Designer dress or recycled dress? Giving the guests a camera and little personalized bundles of birdseed, or just having bowls of rice outside (birds don't explode when they eat rice)?Want to keep it cheap AND have a wedding you and your guests will remember and enjoy?1. Keep it short and simple. Big elaborate weddings with lengthy peripheral events get tedious, cost a lot, tire out the main people, annoy the guests, and increase the chances of problems. Your guests really don't want to be involved in a day long tribute to you.2. Plan for your guests to have fun. They don't need fancy food, lots of souvenirs, fancy! decor, etc. The more fun they are having, the more fun you'll have.3. Lots of photos, videos. Go ahead and hire someone for the key photos, but enthusiastic amateurs will do a better job for most of the shots. Find your friends who would take pictures anyway, and make sure some of the kids have cameras too.4. Remember- a LOT of the expensive wedding stuff is supposed to make your day more special- but you yourself will be too busy to see most of it, and most of your guests will forget it in a week. How much do you want to throw away for things that are not serving a real job? Forget the doves, fancy limos, printed matchbooks, etc. 5. Only invite who you want to show up, and make sure each group is taken care of- work friends have different interests than old school buddies or your parent's guests....Show more
Antonia Boomershine: It's possible to have one under $5,000. You just can't have Dom Perignon & caviar served. You must tailor your wedding tastes towards yo! ur budget. Don't go into debt or cause your parents a hardship. Decid! e what you just HAVE to have & work from there. If music is vital to you & your fiance so that you must have a band & not a DJ then you know where you need to concentrate the money. That sort of thing.Weddings cost. But don't buy into the thinking that your whole wedding will be ruined or that you will be a disgrace if you have to use white linen napkins instead of wedding color napkins folded into shapes of doves.There are MANY good books on the market for this. Make a trip to your library....Show more
Mitzie Clough: That's what all cheap/broke people say.So... no one wants to marry you? It's evident that your bittersness comes from that. Good luckPS/ Envy is a bad counselor....Show more
Linwood Mccory: I think you should do something more intimate and personal. Definitely exclude the women from your past. Just my opinion, though. Good luck!
Charlotte Bryar: The tought of celebrating our day with family is beautiful and meaningful.You dont have to sp! end alot to have a great wedding.
Asa Soho: This is how you do it:Spend money on:reception hallpicturesSave money by having the wedding in a church or outside.Save money on food by picking the time of the day well so you don't have to feed people. Really, you DON'T have to feed people.Buy your wedding cake at a grocery store, they still do a great job and don't charge a lot.Look for a wedding dress online or at a discount bridal party.Your family will want to help so ask them. You can have them do the bridal shower, wedding rehersal and bachelorette party. My family did all this and helped decorate.If you do all this you can spend the money you saved on going on a great honeymoon....Show more
Jose Bouliouris: I got money for abbey, so I'm not lying. I'm rich.
Bo Perham: Of course it is. The bride needs to decide what is most important to her, i.e. flowers, cake, food. And go from there. It also depend on how many people will be invited! We had over 250 so ! food was a big deal here. If your going for a small wedding it should b! e very easy to keep it under 10k. Simplicity is the key, weddings are one day that go by faster then you can blink. Good luck, if you need a wedding singer I am available! ; )
Esteban Lyson: For me, the reason to have a wedding was very simple. My husband has an extended family that is close and very supportive of us. It was important for us to have them, as well as some of our friends, there when we exchanged vows. It would have been rude to invite that many people out to witness a ceremony without offering a reception so we did that as well.
Darcie Peraha: Also, I already planned the wedding at west minister alley. So we are flying to London for the wedding and have a lot of people coming.
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